5 Reasons Why You Don’t Have Friends At Work

5 Reasons Why You Don’t Have Friends At Work

As humans, we need some form of social interaction (some of us more than others). However, we all do need and thrive on the simple act of connecting to people.


For the majority of us, our social fabric is created through work. We see these people every day. We have work in common. We get to know them in ways the spouses and significant others simply don’t. When we leave these people due to job change, it can be painful.

Yet, despite all this social goodness that work can bring, what happens when it doesn’t happen to you? What do you do when you don’t have friends at work? No one to save you space at a meeting or light up when you enter a room? It happens, and when it does, there’s no lonelier place to be. It can be so impactful that it can cause a person to look for another job.

Here are situations you may be facing and what you can do about them:

You’re New In The Office

Young man setting up his desk in a new office.

You may think you’re past due for connecting with people in a deeper way at work. Sometimes the dynamic is such that it simply takes a while and ongoing persistence to break through.

You Got Off On The Wrong Foot With Your Co-Workers

Young man getting off on the wrong foot with his coworker in the office.

It doesn’t matter if you were misinterpreted. Somehow you did something right off the bat that got you sideways with many of your peers. If you did do something wrong, make amends and don’t do it again.

Being the bigger person takes courage, but you will win friends. If there is nothing to make amends for, stay friendly and ignore the undertow. It will eventually fade.

The Work Cliques Are Too Strong To Penetrate

Young man looking sad at his desk as his coworkers laugh and talk behind him.

Just like high school, there are work situations where you are the outsider and will stay that way for an indefinite period of time. Most likely these people have worked together for a while and the bond is tight. They probably don’t realize how unfriendly they may seem.

You need to be friendly and make efforts to get to know each person at an individual level. It may take some big work event, like a year-end close, to be the final catalyst that forms the bond. There’s nothing like being in the trenches with people to nail the trust and support.

You’re Not A Cultural Fit

Young woman looking sad at her desk because she's not making friends at work as quickly as she'd like.

That feels like a hard message, but it truly is not personal. We all have values and work styles we wear like a suit. They are out there for everyone to see and experience. Many times, when we aren’t a cultural fit, we are out of step with the people we work with.

This makes it hard to form friendships. If you aren’t a cultural fit, you need to admit it and move on. It not only won’t help form friendships, but it won’t help your career either.

You’re An Introvert Who’s Turning More Inward

Introverted young man sitting separate from his coworkers in a break room.

For an introvert, it can be tough to push yourself toward people you don’t know. When an introvert is surrounded by ‘strangers,’ it’s easy to retreat even further. You could appear kind of wonky and unapproachable, making it difficult for co-workers to approach you.

You’ve set up your own lonely situation and only you can make your way out. To make it less overwhelming, simply focus on one or two people with whom you feel some form of affinity, and focus on getting to know them. It will help you overall and will become a catalyst for forming more relationships.

Workplace relationships can make or break a job. They can nourish you and help you excel in your career if they are healthy workplace relationships. When those bonds are not forming, it can make you feel very lonely. But there are things you can do to improve the situation. You need patience and a friendly smile.

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How To Ask For Feedback After A Job Rejection (Properly)

How To Ask For Feedback After A Job Rejection (Properly)

Knowing how to ask for feedback after a job rejection can benefit your career in a number of ways. While it’s never ideal to get passed on for a job you want, it’s realistic to assume that it will likely happen to you at some point. This guide will teach you how to ask for […]

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How to Move Up in Your Career in a Non-Profit Organization

How to Move Up in Your Career in a Non-Profit Organization

Working for a non-profit organization can be incredibly rewarding, but that doesn’t mean your career progression should take a back seat. While many people are willing to accept a lower salary or fewer benefits in exchange for working for a cause they’re truly passionate about, there’s no reason why you can’t continue your climb up […]

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How To Overcome Age Discrimination In Your 2023 Job Search

How To Overcome Age Discrimination In Your 2023 Job Search

Do you think age discrimination is affecting your job search? Do you feel like you are losing out to the competition because you’re older? If so, you’re not alone in this thinking, and I’m going to share with you some information that’s going to help you overcome this challenge.


I have been getting a ton of questions lately on the subject of age discrimination, and I want to start by breaking a huge misconception—the fact that it’s not technically age discrimination that you’re experiencing. It’s experience discrimination.

What Is Experience Discrimination?

Job candidate experiencing age discrimination in the hiring process

What do I mean by that? Well, let me give you a little history. Right now there are about 40 million baby boomers in the workforce. These are people in their fifties, sixties, and beyond, and all of them have decided to stay in the workforce a lot longer than the generations before them.

The problem is that, over the last 10+ years, 70 million people from younger generations have also emerged and entered the workforce.

Millennials and Gen Z make up over half the workforce today, and many of them are now in their late twenties and early thirties. This means that they have enough years of experience to be relevant in the marketplace, and given the fact that they cost a lot less—and oftentimes have fewer bad habits and are more technologically savvy—more and more employers hire them over older, more seasoned, more experienced workers.

Again, it’s not really age discrimination. It is a case of the law of supply and demand. If you think about the world of business, there is too much supply—too many seasoned workers—and not enough demand for their skill sets (even with low unemployment rates).

So, what do you do about this?

Well, first understand that this situation isn’t only affecting baby boomers. Eventually, millennials are going to get impacted by this as well. This is due to what is called “globalization,” and every single day the geographic and economic boundaries to getting affordable help are lowering around the world.

In fact, I was working with a client recently who told me how he could hire one PhD here in the U.S., or hire three PhDs for the same price in Europe. This trend is going to continue. Believe it or not, here in the U.S., we all live in the 1% in terms of income and opportunity when compared to the rest of the world.

So, start thinking about how you’re going to change your strategy with respect to your career and your relevance in the marketplace. Again, it’s a supply and demand concept. What you want to do is build a way where your skill sets and expertise are in less supply, so that you are higher in demand.

Now that you understand this whole concept, what you want to do is focus on the fact that you are no longer an employee. You are a business-of-one, and your job is to sell and market your services to employers.

For a business to stay in business, it has to stay relevant in the marketplace. And there are three specific things that we suggest people do in order to make that happen for themselves.

Step 1: Define Your Personal Brand

Older professional overcomes age discrimination with a good personal brand

The first thing you have to do is define your personal brand.

You have to understand what you’re the go-to person for, what your specialty is, and specifically what problems you solve/what pain point you alleviate. This is because employers can only hire you when you save or make them enough money. When you solve their problems, you alleviate their pains to justify the cost of hiring you.

So, it’s on you to get very clear about what your value proposition is, and to do so I suggest that you take our free “career decoder” quiz. This is going to show you what your workplace personas are—the things that you like to do, the tasks that you like to accomplish, and how you like to deliver value in the workplace.

Understanding your workplace personas is the first step in building a very clear personal brand that will help people understand why they should hire you.

Step 2: Follow A Smart Career Strategy

Older woman combats age discrimination during a job interview

The second step in the process is to follow a smart career strategy. Today, every job is temporary, and we know that school has taught us everything except how to manage our careers.

Now that the marketplace is always changing, you can’t build a 5, 10, or 20-year career plan. You can really only do one or two years out at a time. Your career strategy has to be agile, but it has to be very succinct and focused at the same time.

So, at any given time, you should know exactly what you’re trying to achieve, both in your career overall and specifically with regard to relevant skills that you’re trying to grow and leverage.

What you don’t want to do is plateau. Again, I’ve seen a lot of seasoned workers in their fifties and sixties who got to a certain level in their career and thought, “This is good enough; my skills are good enough.” Meanwhile, the whole world around them was changing.

This kind of works like a bell curve. They go up, they plateau, and they start to go down. Now all of a sudden they’re trying to get any job they can—but they’ve also outpriced themselves in the market.

So your job is to always keep focusing on growing your skills, and being able to tell the world specifically what you’re doing to upskill every single year.

Step 3: Work On Your Career, Not Just “In” It

The third step is for you to work on your career as much as you work in it. The truth is that we can easily get caught up in the day-to-day aspects of our job and kind of grind through our week, our months, and our years without ever really thinking about the strategy of our career.

One of the biggest components of this is networking. These days, your network is your net worth. It’s all about who you know.

There are tons of studies that show the best way to get your next job is through a networking connection. If you haven’t checked out our video on this, we’ve got some great resources on networking that can really help you start to understand this—especially with regard to online networking tools like LinkedIn.

A lot of people don’t understand that there are protocols that you need to follow in online networking that are very similar to offline or in-person networking. Unfortunately, people have been short-cutting these protocols and making some terrible, terrible mistakes in the process.

So, please make sure that you’re digitally networking the right way—growing your network, nurturing your network, serving your network. This is the best way for you to have a healthy network, should something happen and you suddenly need to look for a new job. You’ll be able to tap into your professional network without having to start from scratch.

No matter your age and experience level, building these skill sets and having these strategies in place is vital to a successful career. And it’s especially important if you’re trying to overcome experience discrimination.

Again, you are now a business-of-one, and you need to stay on top of these trends in order to stay relevant. Remember these tips and you’ll successfully overcome age discrimination in your job search.

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Top Mistakes to Avoid When Transitioning from Employed to Self-Employed

Top Mistakes to Avoid When Transitioning from Employed to Self-Employed

Making the decision to start out as a freelancer or professional contractor can be one of the most exciting periods of your life. It’s a turning point for many people that signifies years of hard work and hustle finally paying off. After all, who doesn’t want to be their own boss and the master of […]

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How Much Do Recruiters Make? A Full Earnings Breakdown

How Much Do Recruiters Make? A Full Earnings Breakdown

If you’re someone who has ever considered becoming a recruiter, it’s only natural to wonder how much money they make. After all, the job is rather unique! This guide will go over everything you need to know about how much recruiters make, how they get paid, and what kinds of recruiters earn the most money. […]

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Executives Care About 2 Things: Money & Money!

Executives Care About 2 Things: Money & Money!

(NOTE: This message is laced with sarcasm to prove a point. Reader beware and enter at your own risk.)

One of my mentors taught me a very valuable lesson the hard way. He told me I had great ideas, and my sales approach was crap. He even sent me to “Sales Training” to get better at making my point.

I admit I was terrible. I have gotten better over the years and by making mistakes. One good idea after another thrown in the circular file until I learned an invaluable lesson from my mentor.


Executives only care about two things…

#1 – MONEY

And

#2 – MONEY!!!!

Money #1 – How Much Will This Cost Me?

Cost concept

One of the first questions after someone poses an idea to an executive is: “What will this cost?”

Money #1 is about how much outlay of cash, time, or effort this idea will cost me. Is this idea an investment of hundreds of thousands of dollars? Capital? Expense? How long will it take? Who needs to be involved?

Everything in business comes with a cost. If the executive decides to put effort into something, she needs to know what it will cost her. Do I need to change the schedule on another project making it late? Is she hiring someone to complete this project? Does she need to pay overtime? Invest cash? Take out a loan? Everything comes with a price tag.

When presenting your ideas to an executive, make sure you have these details ready at a macro level. Too much detail, you lose their interest. Not enough facts and you will be sent back to the drawing board. What is the right level of detail?

Each executive will have different motivations. See if you can identify them before the conversation and leverage their preferences. Going to a CFO with highly complicated technology will confuse him. Seeking financial support from the Director of Engineering without discussing the details? Good luck. Determine their preference and use it!

Money #2 – What Is The Revenue Or Cost Savings That Comes With This?

Executive/businessman saves money

The second question: “How much can we make off this idea” The corollary question: “What are the savings?”

Money #2 is more about what is in it for me. How much will we profit from this exercise? Will it increase revenue? Can it save me money elsewhere in the business? What do I get from my investment?

If an idea is simply for an idea’s sake, you better have a flawless argument to get approval. Asking for money (#1) without stating what is in it for me (#2) is suicide. If you approached your mother for $100, would you simply get it? Sure, she’s Mom, and she loves you. Dad on the other hand wants a mowed lawn, clean garage, or something in return. (NOTE: This is a stereotype. See warning above.)

Executives need to know their investment will pay off. Some want immediate results, and others may be playing the long game of two to three years out. Either way, for their $100 today, they want something in return in the near future.

How can you save the business? Will the idea drive more revenue and improve cash flow? Is your production line 30% more efficient saving time and labor hours? Can we make and sell more widgets this month?

Approach your executive with some idea of what is in it for them. Show the way your idea can help meet (or exceed) their goals. If you ask for $100K, demonstrate the return of $200K, $300K, $500K, or more for the investment in your project.

Subjects like safety, risk mitigation, and even simply making a product right for the customer may not have hard dollars in return. Focus on cost avoidance when you cannot provide hard cash. Avoiding litigation and the lawyer fees associated to defend your product liability can be worth millions. Saving a person’s life is immeasurable. These costs are indirect, and they are potentially real.

In order to get Money #1 to begin your project, you must show how Money #2 pays itself back. Without it, your idea is nothing more than a dream.

Wrap It Up… This Is Costing Me!

Two businesspeople shake hands after a meeting

I learned this lesson early in my career. As stated, my mentor saw potential in my new ideas. He knew I put a lot of effort into the concept and how it could help the business. I had opportunities to drive real change.

My presentation sucked. I spoke of the technical merits. I showed efficiency gains. I described in detail the plan of implementation. I knew generally what the “cash” costs were in the conversation. I could give him more detail than he needed.

In the end, he asked me what it would cost. I had the cash value of the idea, and I neglected the time and human capital. His second question: “How does this affect the bottom line (the return)?” I did not always have this level of detail.

Business is supposed to be simple. I sell something for a price (Money #2) while making it for a cost (Money #1). When #2 is greater than #1, business is good. If #2 does not exist and you continue to spend #1, your business will not last.

Approaching an executive with these two concepts well prepared will serve you well. In everyday negotiations with my team, I often ask, “How much effort will this take?” and “Why should we do this?” In a way, my mentor is perched on each of my shoulders (like the angel and devil) reminding me of two things…

MONEY and MONEY.

Go forth and sell your ideas better than I have in my past. Use the Money #1 and Money #2 tricks to your advantage. Get your paradigm-changing concepts implemented and improve your world!


6 Types Of Illegal Interview Questions To Watch Out For

6 Types Of Illegal Interview Questions To Watch Out For

Did you know that there are interview questions that might seem legitimate but are actually illegal? While there are some that are clearly inappropriate, not all of them are so obvious. Don’t overlook the different types of illegal interview questions!


Here are a few types of illegal interview questions you should watch out for during your next job interview.

Types of Illegal Interview Questions

Interview questions about your family life:

  • Are you married?
  • Do you have any kids?
  • Are you pregnant?

Interview questions about race:

  • What’s your nationality?
  • What race are you?
Interview questions about religion:
  • What church do you attend?
  • What is your religion?
  • Are you religious?
Interview questions about your living situation:
  • Do you own a home?
  • Do you rent?
  • Do you have an apartment?
  • Do you have anybody living with you?
  • Do you live with your parents?
Interview questions about your gender:
  • Are you male or female?
Interview questions about your age:
  • How old are you?
  • What’s your birth year?
  • When’s your birthday?
  • What year did you graduate from high school?
  • What year did you graduate from college?

Why These Interview Questions Are Illegal

Man answers a question during a job interview

So, what makes these questions illegal?

First, they have no relation to the job requirements. Second, there are strict laws in place that prevent interviewers from asking interview questions that can be discriminatory.

Why Interviewers Ask Illegal Interview Questions

Man goes in for an informational interview

Unfortunately, there are bad interviewers out there who will try to slip some of these questions in on purpose (hello, workplace discrimination). There are also some inexperienced interviewers out there who simply don’t know these are illegal questions and are just trying to make conversation.

If you’re asked these questions, whether intentional or not, it’s best to be prepared so you don’t get flustered during the interview.

How To Prepare For Illegal Interview Questions

Woman on laptop prepares for her next job interview

Sadly, these types of illegal interview questions are asked all of the time during interviews. Not sure how to prepare for them? We built an in-depth interview prep course that will help you understand how to respond to such questions.

We hope this article helps you identify any illegal questions you might be asked in a job interview. Good luck, and keep an eye out for those red flags!

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Answering “What Do You Like To Do For Fun?” The Right Way

Answering “What Do You Like To Do For Fun?” The Right Way

“What do you like to do for fun?” is a simple interview question that many job-seekers overlook. But they don’t realize that their answer carries a lot of weight! This resource will cover why interviewers want to know what you do for fun, and teach you how to come up with a great answer. Why […]

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I Would Never “Quiet Quit.” Here’s Why…

I Would Never “Quiet Quit.” Here’s Why…

As a 20-year career coaching veteran who left corporate America and the staffing industry to become an advocate for you, the worker, I have a lot to say about this concept of quiet quitting.


“Quiet Quit” Is Not The Right Term

@j.t.odonnell Replying to @messympath I would NEVER quiet quit, here’s why… #nono #quietquitting #quietquittingmyjob #learnontiktok #careeradvice #jobtok #careertiktok #careermode ♬ original sound – J.T. O’Donnell

First of all, it’s not the right term. If you really want to quiet quit, it’s very derogatory, it’s very negative, and it implies you’re phoning it in. And here’s my concern with that. If that’s the route you want to go and you want to outwardly give the impression that you’re phoning it in, you can’t. Because you’re a service provider to your employer. They pay you for a service. And if they’re in a pinch and they need that service and you’re capable of fulfilling that business need while having a checked-out attitude, then everything works fine.

Quiet Quitters Are The First To Get Laid Off

Man gets laid off from his job after quiet quitting

But if the market changes and your company is in a position to get rid of some people, who are they going to get rid of? The quiet quitters. The ones they don’t feel are coming to work with the right attitude or working at the right level.

And that’s their prerogative. It’s just business.

If you’re feeling like you need to quiet quit because your company is taking advantage of you, you need to have a conversation with me about how to set boundaries and work smarter (not harder) while still making your employer happy.

I have worked with lots of women whose definition of success was working 60+ hours a week in corporate America. After having their first baby, they go back to their job and only work 40 hours a week. Then, in their next performance review, they get told their performance was average and they don’t get an outstanding rave review, and they’re so angry.

In your employer’s mind, you took something away. Whether it’s right or wrong doesn’t matter. That’s the perception.

Quiet Quitting Isn’t Going Unnoticed

Woman talks to her boss about quiet quitting

This is why I’m really worried about all these people who love the idea of quiet quitting. If you don’t think it’s getting noticed, it is. And if the market shifts, you could see results that you’re not happy with.

It’s way more important—if you are not feeling good about the environment you’re in—to learn how to become what I call a Workplace Renegade. That means an independent thinker, somebody who can figure out the best relationship for them and their company. And if that relationship isn’t working for you anymore, then we help you find something else and open up that job for someone who would be happy with it.

Take ownership of your career, folks. Stop being angry at the employer. You have more control than you think!

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23 Peer Interview Questions & Answers You Must Practice

23 Peer Interview Questions & Answers You Must Practice

Being prepared for the most common peer interview questions is essential if you want to leave a great impression. Peer interviews are unfamiliar to many job-seekers, so it’s important to do what you can to be confident and ready! This list of peer interview questions will help you ace this interview and increase your chance […]

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Summary Sunday: Issue #487

Summary Sunday: Issue #487

Searching to get a job hasn’ to changed all that a lot in the past five years. But there are usually subtle nuances that boost your chances of acquiring a new job quicker. This week’ s overview addresses some of all those subtle changes. Explaining spaces on your resume Poor ties help secure a fresh job Secure your social media marketing What’ s […]

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